Category Archives: Grief

Helping Your Children Grieve with Truth

Tears already fill my eyes as I try to write words here.

Yesterday I sat on my front steps of the porch and watched big tears roll down my oldest boy’s cheeks. I listened intently to the sadness in his voice as he expressed confusion and bitterness in losing his meme- my mom.

“Everything has been different since Meme died. Life has seemed so hard since that day. Nothing has gone right, Mom.” Continue reading Helping Your Children Grieve with Truth

Sympathy Is More Than a Card

This past Sunday, my husband and I were privileged to attend a life class (small group) led by my brother-in-law Ryan.  As we began studying the Word from I Peter 3, our hearts were directed to verse 8.  I Peter 3:8 reads, “Finally, all of you, have unity of mind, sympathy, brotherly love, a tender heart, and a humble mind.”

In our discussion of this verse, we came to the word sympathy. Ryan asked the group to share a definition or application for sympathy.

Immediately, my mind thought of a sympathy card! I have given out many sympathy cards to others who are grieving.  Unfortunately, I also know exactly what it feels like to receive one of those cards. After Mom’s death, my mailbox was flooded with sympathy cards.  While I am extremely grateful for each expression of love and sympathy that showed itself in the form of a card, I have learned from experience that Biblical sympathy extends much deeper than just a card! Continue reading Sympathy Is More Than a Card

From my journal. . . .Mother’s Day 2013

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Lord,

I can’t help but think about my sweet mama a lot this week. Wow! Only You know how every thought is filled with her memory! It seems I can’t escape her presence. . ..although she’s not really here anymore.

Sometimes it still seems so unreal that she is now with You. . .but I’m glad she’s safe now and has found her joy again. But the ache of missing her buries deep within my bosom. My chest hurts with the pain of losing my best friend and mentor. The questions of her death run deep within my mind. Continue reading From my journal. . . .Mother’s Day 2013

Because He Loves Me, I Press On!

from my journal. . .2/23/15

Today has been a hard day! I should have expected it to be. I have felt the emotions of grief buried deep inside my soul for the last week or so.  But there has been no time to process it all again. . .and simply give in to the sadness!

Two days ago marked another “grief” milestone.  It’s been two years since Mom’s tragic death.  I find it so weird still how my mind and body seem to sense certain dates that draw out deep feelings. Continue reading Because He Loves Me, I Press On!

A Letter to My Daughter

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from my journal…

April 2015

Dear Lauryn,

You hold such a special and tender place in my heart. My heart grieves with you today. This week has been a tough one for you. Saying goodbye to your sweet little cat Bolt has been a very hard thing. He brought you so much joy and delight!

I remember when you first brought him home. You cared for him so tenderly . . . like he was your own little baby. You’ve always had a gentle way with animals. And Bolt knew his owner was a softie! Continue reading A Letter to My Daughter

Grace for My Grief Day

Today has been one of those really yuck days! I call them “grief days.”

It started last night as I was up at 12:30 am with my youngest son.

As I climbed back into bed, my mind kicked into high gear and there was no sleep to come! After holding back the sobs that threatened to wake my exhausted husband, I escaped quietly to the living room couch. That old couch and I have shared many sleepless nights together over the past 15 years. I have stained the couch with endless tears through the ups and downs of life. Tonight was yet another encounter with grief and a heartfelt cry to Jesus for strength, peace, and hope in my troubled soul. Continue reading Grace for My Grief Day

The Gift of Relaxed Expectations

Grief and loss bring many changes into our lives.  One of the most profound changes often comes in relationships.  Through my own grief I have experienced varied dynamics between friends, family, my marriage, and ministry.

My marriage relationship has been significantly altered in the course of grief.  Jason and I have learned so many valuable life lessons through these 2 years on the grief journey.  Our marriage has risen to a newer and deeper level because of the grace we have both experienced in this trial.

One of the greatest gifts Jason and I are learning to give is the “Gift of Relaxed Expectations.” Continue reading The Gift of Relaxed Expectations

Quieted By His Love

Today marks 2 years since my precious mom went to be with Jesus. In some ways, it feels like forever. In other ways, I can barely believe it’s been 2 years already. Though not in this world physically any more, Mama still lives in my thoughts! She is very much alive in my memories!

I was truly blessed to have a Godly loving mom. Not only did I call her my mom, but I knew her as my best friend. I will forever treasure the love we shared. Continue reading Quieted By His Love