Category Archives: Parenting

Trusting God with Our Children

A few weeks ago, I wrote a post expressing my heart’s desire for my children to treasure Jesus. I’ve definitely been pondering on my own thoughts in recent days.

Just this week, I was challenged and encouraged with these words from Marshall Segall. . .

We are not called to execute a complicated series of steps that secures a certain outcome in our child’s heart. As burdensome and impossible as that parenting technique seems, our flesh foolishly prefers it to trusting Someone else with our kids. No, success in parenting is not found in meticulously performing a process. Real success in parenting is taking today’s step in steadfast obedience to God’s word, by prayerful dependence on God’s strength, with open-handed faith in God’s plan — always relinquishing the short-term and long-term (even eternal) results to God’s will.”

I ask you to read the entire article “You Cannot Guarantee Your Child’s Godliness.” It’s too good not to share with you!

Marshall says, “We all love the idea of open-handed faith in God’s plan — until it means our children might not believe in him. The irony in that tension is subtle, but thick. Do I trust God enough to let him decide what my child believes about God? As a father, if I’m honest, that feels even more intimidating than being tortured or martyred for my faith somewhere in the Middle East.

But if we are willing to trust God with our children’s futures, we can focus on parenting faithfully today, while pleading with him to move in their hearts and lead them to himself.”

May we trust God with our children today.

 

 

To Treasure Jesus

Last week, I had the sweet privilege to visit a new friend of mine. She has two young boys and shared with me her current struggles/prayer concerns about educational choices for her oldest. We discussed different options of education, challenges in parenting a strong-willed child, and embracing motherhood in its various seasons.

Later that same day, I was talking with another recently married friend who desires to have a family in the future. I found myself sharing with her from my own motherhood journey and encouraging her heart to embrace the struggles and joys that will come from being a mom.

I have been a mom now for almost 15 years, and am graciously blessed to parent 5 amazing children! Currently, I am parenting a busy freshman in high school, a middle school girl with changing hormones, a spunky 8 year old, and 2 munchkins learning to read and write in kindergarten.

At times it’s easy to become overwhelmed with the daily responsibilities of motherhood. At times it’s frustrating. At times I feel pulled in so many different directions. At times I fail miserably and lose my cool. At times I cry and laugh multiple times in just an hour. At times I wonder what in the world God is doing in all of our lives! At ALL times, I’m desperate for Jesus to fill us with His grace and love.

As a new mom, I can remember all the goals and desires I had for my children. I think of the goals and expectations I had set for myself as a mom . . . and prided myself on. In those early days of parenting, I could never have known how God would strip me of selfish desires, expose my “perfectionism” and performance mentality, reveal pride, and lead me to a humble dependence in Him alone. In His grace, He continues to change my heart as a parent and bring new focus on His heart for my children.

I’ve asked myself the question recently . . . “What do I most desire for my children?” Continue reading To Treasure Jesus

It’s Your Birthday

I am loved by an amazing God.

I am wondrously showered with redeeming grace.

I am healing from the deep wounds of your death.

I am confident that God is writing my story . . . and it’s a beautiful one.

Mom,

Today marks your 4th birthday spent with Jesus. Still seems impossible this could be true . . . but it is. I can’t even begin to imagine how awesome your days must be-no pain, no anxiety, no fear, no heartbreaks. Just sheer joy in the presence of your Savior. Continue reading It’s Your Birthday

Encouraging Hearts

Summer is over and gone.  Wow! I can hardly believe the kids are back in school. We had a pretty crazy summer.  Our family experienced many joys but also many challenges. Let’s face it. Life on this earth is hard and full of many challenges.  It is so easy to be overwhelmed with the daily struggles and pressures we face.  Seasons of change drive us even more to our knees. Continue reading Encouraging Hearts

Discipline or Disciple?

I walk in the door from teaching ladies Bible study. It is 10 pm. I’m spent. . .emotionally, physically, and mentally. But my soul has been nourished from time in the Word.

Thoughts of walking into my quiet house delight me! The kids should all be in bed. . .and hopefully asleep by now!

As I enter the kitchen, disappointment awaits me. One of the kids is up waiting for me. My idea of a nice, quiet evening disappears quickly!

I fight the selfishness rising within my spirit. . .the irritation of having to deal with problems. . .and the frustration of losing my quiet evening.

She looks at me with big tears in her eyes. “Mom, I need to talk to you about what happened tonight.” Continue reading Discipline or Disciple?

A Letter to My Daughter

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from my journal…

April 2015

Dear Lauryn,

You hold such a special and tender place in my heart. My heart grieves with you today. This week has been a tough one for you. Saying goodbye to your sweet little cat Bolt has been a very hard thing. He brought you so much joy and delight!

I remember when you first brought him home. You cared for him so tenderly . . . like he was your own little baby. You’ve always had a gentle way with animals. And Bolt knew his owner was a softie! Continue reading A Letter to My Daughter

Just Say “Yes”

“Mama, can I build a tent in the schoolroom for Lynsey to play in?”

“No, I really would rather you not right now.  I don’t want you to get all that stuff out. Can’t you find something else to do?”

That part of me (the neat freak) that absolutely dreads seeing sheets, blankets, and other assorted items accumulating throughout the room that I just cleaned was shouting “NO, NO, NO!” in my head. Continue reading Just Say “Yes”