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Giving Love to the Grieving Heart

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Many of my readers are currently navigating the journey of grief with close relatives or friends. Grief changes people. Grief changes the everyday routines of the home. Grief changes relationship dynamics. Grief can be very troubling.

It can often be very difficult to deal with a grieving person. It’s hard to know what to say and when. It’s easy to offend a grieving heart. It’s tempting to try and “rush” the grief.  We just want that person “back to normal.”

I want to offer a few thoughts on grief and ways to give love to a grieving heart. This list is by no means exhaustive. However, I think these ideas may encourage that person who is struggling in relationship to a grieving person. Continue reading Giving Love to the Grieving Heart

Wednesday Whispers #4

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In the past few weeks, I’ve been praying for several friends who are currently on journeys of grief. One of my closest friends is grieving the loss of her dearly loved father-in-law, grandma and grandpa. Another friend is struggling to help her daughter deal with the loss of a grandparent. Change usually sparks a new wave of grief in my own life. So, these “whispers of grace” that I’m sharing today have either helped me along my grief journey or are current reads for me.

Grace Covers Me- By Faith Episode #7: Kathy Litton podcast

Kathy’s husband was killed in a tragic car accident. Her honesty about grief is comforting, refreshing, and encouraging. I’m so thankful for people like Kathy who honestly share their grief journey and how God sustains in our darkest of days.

Dorina Gilmore

I was recently introduced to Dorina on Instagram and have been reading several of her blog posts related to grief. She became a widow with three young children after her husband died from cancer. She offers several tips for navigating grief with kids on her website. Her  own story is filled with incredible Gospel hope as she writes of “chasing God’s glory through tragedy and triumph.”

10 Ways to Help Your Kids Grieve When You Are Grieving Too

Michelle Lazurek gives some great advice in this article. I definitely agree with her wisdom to “face the grief head on” and “give yourself (and your kids) time.”

Heaven for Kids 

Randy Alcorn’s book was a good read with my older children after my mom died. Focusing on the realities of Heaven was very encouraging and profitable.

Therefore I Have Hope: 12 Truths that Comfort, Sustain, and Redeem in Tragedy 

“Throughout the journey of my worst nightmare―my descent into a dark, sad valley―the Holy Spirit would remind me of truths that comforted my soul and sustained my life.”

After the sudden death of their three-year-old son, Cameron Cole and his wife found themselves clinging to Christ through twelve key theological truths―truths that became their lifeline in the midst of unthinkable grief. Weaving together their own story of tragic loss and abiding faith, Cole explores these twelve life-giving truths to offer hope and comfort to those in the midst of tragedy. 

I am currently reading this book and finding it to be raw, comforting, and truth-filled! I identify with his message that only God’s truths sustain and give hope as we journey through “our worst.”

Steven Curtis Chapman : The Glorious Unfolding and Beauty Will Rise 

Music brings incredible healing . . . and these albums have ministered grace to me in some of my darkest and lowest days. I’ve found much light and hope in these encouraging words written from Steven’s own experience with grief and pain. He ministers from a heart that has found Christ to be always sufficient and always working His good plan in our lives.

Happy Wednesday, friends!

Take Another Step

One of my favorite music albums is Steven Curtis Chapman’s The Glorious Unfolding. Steven writes these songs from his own raw, vulnerable, and painful suffering.  He has walked the dark roads of intense suffering and questioning. He has personally experienced deep grief. And he has found God to be faithful and the hope of Heaven to be very comforting.

As I was listening and singing along to his song Take Another Step this morning in my mommy-van, I was reminded of several steps that I’ve taken along my personal grief journey. God has been so faithful to me as well and Heaven grows sweeter each day.

But taking another step in the middle of deep pain and suffering is not easy. AT ALL. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve felt that I couldn’t keep pushing through the fog. I’ve wanted to quit and give up on so many days. I’ve cried more tears than I ever dreamed possible. I’ve felt numb but yet so sensitive to people, places, and memories. Many days it has seemed near to impossible to crawl out of bed, take a step into my kitchen, or get dressed to care for my family. Yet, I am making it. . .one step at a time. I am moving from my emptiness to His fullness. . .little by little. And I am loving God more with each day. . .as I daily take steps into His light. Continue reading Take Another Step

It’s Your Birthday

I am loved by an amazing God.

I am wondrously showered with redeeming grace.

I am healing from the deep wounds of your death.

I am confident that God is writing my story . . . and it’s a beautiful one.

Mom,

Today marks your 4th birthday spent with Jesus. Still seems impossible this could be true . . . but it is. I can’t even begin to imagine how awesome your days must be-no pain, no anxiety, no fear, no heartbreaks. Just sheer joy in the presence of your Savior. Continue reading It’s Your Birthday

Conference Sessions Available on Vimeo- “From Empty to Full”

 

In November of 2015, I had the privilege to speak at a ladies conference in NC. I have shared these sessions with a few friends in my church who encouraged me to post them on the blog. I pray that God will use these words to strengthen and encourage your own heart. God has certainly been faithful in my own life and continues to move my life from “empty to full.”

In these sessions, I quote and reference from many of the following authors. I highly recommend these books that God has used to bring healing and help to my own life through my journey of grief.  Continue reading Conference Sessions Available on Vimeo- “From Empty to Full”

Filled with All the Fullness of God-Part Two

I’m reminded of the story of Jacob in the OT. Recently I read this as it relates. . .

“A long time ago, a preacher named James H. McConkey asked a friend of his, a doctor, ‘What is the exact significance of God’s touching Jacob upon the sinew of his thigh?’”

“And the doctor told him, ‘The sinew of the thigh is the strongest in the human body. A horse couldn’t even tear it apart.’”

These are the words I’ve never forgotten, what preacher McConkey said. “Ah, I see. The Lord has to break us down at the strongest part of our self-life before He can have His own way of blessing in us.” (One Thousand Gifts– Ann Voskamp)

God breaks us in order to give us the greatest treasure—the blessing of Himself! He desires that we be filled with all the fullness of Christ. Continue reading Filled with All the Fullness of God-Part Two

Quieted By His Love

Today marks 2 years since my precious mom went to be with Jesus. In some ways, it feels like forever. In other ways, I can barely believe it’s been 2 years already. Though not in this world physically any more, Mama still lives in my thoughts! She is very much alive in my memories!

I was truly blessed to have a Godly loving mom. Not only did I call her my mom, but I knew her as my best friend. I will forever treasure the love we shared. Continue reading Quieted By His Love